Understanding the Stages of Grief

Grief is a complex emotion, and it isn't easy to determine how it affects everyone. Some people are very expressive about their grief, while others hold their pain close. Many psychologists have attempted to understand how grief works. One of the most popular studies published on this topic is by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who described five stages of grief. Here’s a brief look at what they mean:

1. Denial

People's first reaction is to reject death. They immediately deny it happened, even after being warned about it. This denial can last for several days and linger for months in different forms. For example, it isn't common for people to 'hear' a deceased loved one's voice often or even 'feel' their presence.

2. Anger

Grieving individuals go through turbulent emotions like frustration, rage, helplessness, and anger shortly after the loss. Death is inevitable, and it can make humans feel powerless. Anger is a natural response to this.

3. Bargaining

This stage is all about reflection and ‘what ifs.’ Family members often ask questions like ‘would another doctor/hospital have done a better job?’ or ‘should I have taken them to a doctor earlier?’ Bargaining is a difficult time, and it often makes family members feel guilty. 

4. Depression

Depression happens when reality settles in, and you have to deal with the wounds left behind. There's a palpable sense of loss that attacks you at any time, stealing all happiness and ruining your day.

5. Acceptance

Acceptance is the final stage, and it is a point where people start looking at their future instead of reflection on their past. You are still dealing with grief, but it isn't as painful or oppressive after you have accepted the loss.

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